Reconnect with you Teen!

Are you a parent to a pre teen or teen?

Do you find it hard to connect without loosing your patience? 

Here are my top tips to reconnect with your teen:

Find the time to LISTEN to your teen. If you are curious about what’s going on in your teen’s life, asking direct questions might not be as effective as simply sitting back and listening. Kids are more likely to be open with their parents if they don’t feel pressured to share information. Remember even an offhand comment about something that happened during the day is their way of reaching out, and you’re likely to hear more if you stay open and interested 

PRAISE THEM- Parents tend to praise children more when they are younger, but teens need the self-esteem boost just as much. Teenagers might act like they’re too cool to care about what their parents think, but the truth is they still want your approval. And looking for opportunities to be positive and encouraging is good for you to reconnect together.

Control YOUR EMOTIONS It’s easy for your temper to flare when your teen is being rude. Remember that you’re the adult and they are less able to control their emotions or think logically when they’re upset. Count to ten or take some deep breaths before responding. If you’re both too upset to talk, hit pause until you’ve had a chance to calm down.

DO THINGS TOGETHER. Talking isn’t the only way to communicate, and during these years it’s great if you can spend time doing things you both enjoy, whether it’s cooking or practicing a yoga class or going to the movies, without talking about anything personal. It’s important for kids to know that they can be in proximity to you, and share positive experiences, without having to worry that you will ask questions or call them out for something.

Parents, remember—you were teenagers once too.

You know how tough those years can be. Let's work together to make a difference in our teens' lives by creating a safe space where they feel truly heard, understood, and comfortable enough to open up about anything.

We can't wait for our next teen and parent workshop- be sure to stay tuned!